Anxiety; where, when, how and why? Lets get you back to being you.
With so many people reporting anxiety in everyday life today, I wanted to write a short piece to help people understand and untangle the confusion of anxiety.
Anxiety, 90% of the time, has a root cause. You may be conscious of the cause or you may not.
If you don't know the cause, it may be worth exploring the anxiety and a good place to start is when you last experienced it.
Tracking and becoming aware of anxiety is essential for repair. This can be as simple as making notes on your phone, in a note book or recording experiences in your diary.
Tracking helps to identify what the triggers are, allowing exploration and identification of the problem area.
Once you have an idea of what is triggering the anxiety, you then have the opportunity to start working on finding the cause.
Common anxiety problems are linked to social events, health problems or generalised anxiety.
These indicate the source of the anxiety is a feeling of being unsafe or powerless to others, the body and the world around you.
Sometimes, experiences you've had are the cause, and there are links to low confidence, low resilience levels and self-worth.
Most people suffering with anxiety label themselves as 'people pleasers'.
Exploring why you feel you're a 'people pleaser' and how this became part of your behaviour can lead to exploration of your childhood, which is often where the root of anxiety is found.
But this isn't always the case. Anxiety can be a result of experiences which caught you off guard, or where you idealised the outcome of something you invested a lot of time and energy in.
When we experience a loss of some kind, like a job, relationship or life goal, the feeling can be that of embarrassment, foolishness or naivety. All feelings we humans avoid on a regular basis.
When we experience these negative feelings, we can sometimes lose trust in ourselves, resulting in becoming wary of making decisions in the future. This can lead to self-doubt, questioning and the development of over thinking.
Anxiety is not meant to hold a pernimant place within us. Nervousness is a natural part of us, it's the bodies warning system letting us when we are doing something new.
We overcome nervousness when we learn we are able to cope with a new experience, when we settle into a new environment, get to know people and understand we are able to resolve problems and uncomfortable situations.
Learning to regulate and manage expectations is also an important skill and is directly linked to overcoming anxiety.
Sadly, anxiety overrides our identity, it sabotages our ability to grow and mature into wise and capable individuals.
Anxiety is resolvable. I've heard repeatedly how fearful people are about not being anxious anymore, because they don't know who they are without anxiety.
You will know who you are once you have recovered, you will return to being the authentic person you were meant to be in your own unique way.
It might be that you will need to get to know yourself again.
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